"LOVE" – a bliss -> a fantasy -> an illusion - > a hallucination -> a perception -> a virtual reality -> a blatant mistake?????? -> a divinity!!!!

To be very honest, I am very surprised to find myself writing on this topic – nevertheless, this space has been my biography and requires all entries to be recorded – even if the content is beyond my own imagination – so be it!!!!

Hence, I must confess that this latest post took an eternity to arrive, because I found myself too occupied – living certain days for myself, trapped amidst something recognizable but uncontrollable called – LIFE!!

I have always been a person who has had high regards for rationality – and an even higher precedence towards practicing the same as an approach to live and survive. This means that more than once, emotions have had to make a compromise – because their cravings were unrealistic, illusionary and blissful!! This means that temptations have had to more than once be murdered, because they were wilting to succumb to impossibilities!!!

This means that to long, to crave, to yearn, to aspire, to LOVE – the heart had to seek numerous permissions, pass several examinations and rational interventions of prudence and foresight – and only if every test was cleared upto satisfaction – would it be allowed to have its ways!!
The principles governing the emotional hub has always been – if it aint right - it aint possible, its never momentary - its for a lifetime, if it aint attributed to longevity - it aint realistic – it aint happening!!!

And today, if it has got what it has loved – guess it’s earned its prize and rightly deserves so!!!

More so, I do not know, who is luckier – the prize to have got the victor or the victor to have been honored with the prize – however, the prize definitely must be congratulated to have passed the severest of examinations!!

Over the last 3 months, I have lived like one would live in the movies – moments shaped like stills, minutes like shots, days like frames – emotions instilled the impulses while rationality and maturity directed action as life wrote its own script.

Contrary to popular beliefs, to fall in love isn’t a very complicated process – A is from Mars and meets B who is from Venus, they come from different planets, come with a history, different genetics, different memories, and different upbringing(s) and develop an acquaintance at some juncture when the orbits intersect.

Despite the veracities, they strike a chord, further re-enforcements lead to an emotional connect between the two – and in turn, they share things that mean the world to themselves and when they are accepted and understood by the other – they are comforted and are more willing to be with each other than with anyone else, cause none has been so considerate, affectionate and understanding – they name the relationship as to be in love with each other, which does nothing but promote A and B in designation to be called more than friends, exercise certain rights over each other and also in turn demand certain expectations.

A and B might pass through all these phases, however for them to be eventually together for a lifetime – they need to appease certain stakeholders, who have been primarily responsible for their existence and govern their life(s) – if they fail to do so, they might have to fall apart. In the case of the later happening, the process is painful, but nevertheless they made the mistake of living their life for that moment and showed lack of foresight – they repent, cry, howl, die everyday and then recover amidst a renaissance of life!!!!

Despite all this I say that the process isn’t complex, the participants are!!! Inevitably, they make it humanly complex!!!!

Things get even more complex if the participants are more in number and it’s just not only A and B!! Even if the numbers are more than a pair, things go worse if the count is odd!!!

The breeds are unpredictable, both to an extent are selfish and both fall prey to temptations – more than once, hurting one too many and at times falling in grace, self respect and dignity. I fail to understand the disappearance of education, intelligence and self governance amidst this blasphemy of emotions. At times things can get far more embarrassing than the Indian parliament and the thoughts and actions can get far more emotional and dangerously fanatic!!

A and B – fall in love, recognize each other as elixirs of their lives – are inseparable – then realize that they did not follow protocols and both together would not be accepted – by parents or by society, at times they might fall just for the sake it and then realize that they weren’t made for themselves – this realization can set in at the end of 2 weeks or can set in even after a period of 4 to 5 years of companionship, at times they just get together thinking that they might need each other for support – they fail to understand the involvement that the relationship would demand and it would go beyond mere companionship, dependency and support – by the time they realize that, its too late to push themselves back - they cry, howl, crib, suffer – survive – MOVE ON – find C and D – WHO UNDERSTAND – and live through the process again. We can only hope that this next innings lives for a lifetime!!!!

Sometimes, A wouldn’t let go of B – despite things going nowhere – while B would want to MOVE ON (a favourite jargon of the affected breed!!) and C would want to UNDERSTAND (another favourite jargon of the accepting tribe!!) and this transaction of love – I call it a transaction cause sometimes you would emote to sell yourself, emote cause the relationship demands it, emote artificially, sometimes you d also try and push yourself onto another person and manufacture love – rather let me call it the business of love enters many more complications – until time and life writes another script of its own!!!

As I saw this movie, being produced – directed and screened live, I hated the acts more than the characters – though its easy for one to blame the characters, but being humans they behave as the situation forces them to behave!!!

B leaves C and MOVES ON breaking all promises made for 4 years – B is not at fault, B doesn’t bother to tell C the reason – B may not be at fault again – the world judges B to be the villain, cause C has been speaking to the world about how hurt and distraught C is while B has chosen to be silent in his/her acts – the world is not at fault!!! C, however only tells the sympathetic part of his story to the world to generate more opinion on his favor, while there is more to it – C is still not at fault!!!

B and C made an attempt and failed – be it for 4 years, but still failed – both do not see hope in each other – C ‘FOUND HOPE’ in D – while B has to find hope in the rest of the world!!! Hence, C immerses himself/herself in D while B sells his side of the story to the world – the hungry world listens to the tragic story and appeases its appetite for gossip and allows time to re-organize new relationships, old status quo’s and accommodates new members!!!

The scenarios can assume many proportions, Z and Y ‘GO AROUND’ – then decide after some years that they aren’t clicking – they MOVE ON – Z finds X and Y finds W – and then despite memories of pasts hanging around their heavy hearts, amidst optimism they live in hope – meanwhile X and W immerse themselves honestly and completely in Z and W, UNDERSTANDING the baggage of their past – Z and Y however accidentally have a rendezvous – be it by choice or be it by design - they meet and recollect their old charm and chemistry – throwing away all four of them in a haywire – until again they decide to pick their own pair and really MOVE ON !!!

At the end of it all, given the situations witnessed, the experiences garnered – I have come to a conclusion that TO LOVE is to not only emote, to attract, to understand, to empathize and live for the moment – along with all that TO LOVE is also to appreciate, to assimilate, to analyze, to comprehend, to unprecedentedly commit, to respect and to sensitize and satisfy all meaningful stakeholders in life.

A has to not only love B, has to love the making of B, has to love the people involved in the making of B, love the fallacies of B and respect B for what he/she is, where he/she comes from, what he or she proposes to do with life and for whom does he/she proposes to live for.

Only if A loves and respects all this, and is in turn respected by B’s world can this phenomenon proceed – last for a lifetime – else it will fade inevitably – and people will MOVE ON – and people will UNDERSTAND – until people DECIPHER the true meaning and all pervasiveness of LOVE and hopefully find it too, at some juncture!!!